Tuesday, August 26, 2008

A Little Boy's Story

  Everyday I think of my mother and father. My mother died of cancer when I was 28 she was a young lady. My father 13 years later. What is it like to have your parents leave you at a very young age. 
  Maybe someday the little boy in this picture will let us know? This boy is Billy, with his aunt.
  Oh, mom and dad are alive. Mom has another child. Dad still running from his problems. Its all about them.
  Billy parents have a drug problem. Oh, I feel his parents love him but I think they love the drug more. The drug is Methamphetamine. 
  I feel meth is a drug that takes over a person. It controls that person. That person's way of thinking. I know that Billy's grandfather, or as Billy calls him G-pa would tell Billy's mom, "I am not talking to my daughter but to a drug."
  Billy started school, pre-school last week. That is a big thing for him. Billy has know in his life that if he gets dropped off somewhere or if his parent would leave they might not be back for some time. It is his second week and he still has that feeling that NaNa might not be back to get him.
  Billy in his four years of his life has seen his father, holding him while hitting his mother. His mother leaving He and his father. He has been giving alcohol by his father's girlfriend. Has been in the same room as his father and girlfriend having sex. "Humping" is what his daddy called it, when billy asked his father what they were doing. Billy has lived in a tent slept in his dad's car. And numerous stranger's places. And last but not least he has tested positive for Meth.
  How does Billy get to this point? Last October after his dad had been kicked out of everywhere they stayed. His dad had no chose but to let Billy's NaNa and G-pa take him, until his dad could fine a place for the both of them. Around March after taking Billy back to his dad, in a Hotel on Union Ave. NaNa and G-pa had enough. With help from a family friend papers were drawn up and they petition the court for guardianship.
  With neither parents showing up at court. Guardianship granted to his NaNa and G-pa. 
  Billy now has his own bed in his own room. 
  Now as for his G-pa. It has taken him a little time getting his dad leg back under him. You know as a grandparent you just give the kid back and go to bed. 
  Billy is a 24/7 grandkid for NaNa, G-pa and Aunt Karly. NaNa is the only mother he knows. Oh he sees his mom but he gets his mothering from his NaNa. 
  His dad was seeing him about every two weeks or so. But after walking away from a rehab center and moving to Idaho. (running again) G-pa has had to take over the dad end of thing. 
 
 For those of you who know me know that I am telling you about my own grandson. I am G-pa.
Billy's mom is my oldest daughter. We love our daughter very much. She has a little red haired big blue eyed girl now name Carol. That is her with me in this picture, that smile is alway there. Billy's mom is trying but we know we can't help she has got to do it on her own. We can pray. Tough love is what we give.    
  I now sleep at night because I know where Billy is. Between his NaNa and I with his foot in my face.    
   
    
            


2 comments:

Lumpy said...

Jim, Glad to see you hanging in there. Sad story you have, but know you are doing the right thing, your grandson will let you know that down the road. Someday when he is the star pitcher for his Little League, high school and college baseball teams all because his G-pa loved him. Let's ride...

Anonymous said...

Thank the Lord for G-pa, NaNa, and Aunt Karly in little Billy's life!